5 Reasons why kissing your wife's private parts is halal
C.J Ahmed-19.03.2023
Kissing your wife’s private pats is a form of oral sex or sexual fondling and it is not haram to do so. There are varying opinions among scholars on whether or not oral sex is halal or not and most of the opinions forbidding oral sex are personal opinions based on biased cultural upbringing. The four madhhabs too are divided on this issue. According to the two main sources of Islam namely the Quran and the authentic hadiths there is no clear mention of oral sex being forbidden and this silence is a clear indication that Islam does not forbid oral sex.
The brainwashing is so severe, stories have emerged anecdotally that some spouses have refused to have oral sex with their partner citing conservative opinions and that in turn has resulted in serious marital problems. If you ask randomly, "is blowjob allowed in Islam" many would say that it is not allowed. Just take the instance of one Islamic magazine known as the Majlis (Majlis ul Ulama-South Africa) magazine which is run by deviant Muslims who have Ashari, Muhtazili, Sufi and many other leanings had to say when asked on What is the Sharia ruling on oral sex and the short answer was,
"It is an inhuman, sub-bestial practice which is not permissible"
(Dated October 30th, 2014)
This lunacy is not only limited to a few Muslims but this view is widespread and the most ludicrous thing here is, that like masturbation, oral sex is widely performed among Muslims. In this article, I would like to answer almost all the wrong arguments that are prevalent among Muslims with regards to kissing the privates and performing oral sex.
Point of Argument Number-1-Sexual Fluids Are Halal
One of the main arguments found to despise masturbation is that the seminal fluid and the vaginal fluids are najash(Impure) hence oral sex is haram. This argument has no basis and it’s only the personal opinion of these scholars. The truth is that sexual fluids such as semen is pure. In a hadith
"Aa’ishah (rali) who said: I remember scratching it (semen) from the garment of the Messenger of Allah (sal) thoroughly, and then he prayed in it".
(Sahih Muslim)
“The Messenger of Allaah (sal) used to remove maniy from his garment with a twig of Adhkaar (a kind of tree), then pray in that garment, and he would rub it from his garment once it was dry, and would pray in the same garment.”
(Ibn Khuzaymah in his sahih and classed hasan by Albani in Irwa al ghaleel)
These hadiths prove that semen is not impure and the same could be said about the female fluid known as the urethral fluid because the Prophet (sal) said:
Umm Sulaym (rali), who asked the Prophet (sal) about a woman who sees a dream like a man, sees (i.e., an erotic dream). The Messenger of Allaah (sal) said:
“If a woman sees that, she should do ghusl.” Umm Sulaym said: I felt shy when I heard that. She asked, “Is that possible?” The Prophet (sal) said: “How else would the child resemble his father or mother? The water of the man is thick and white, and the water of the woman is thin and yellow. Whichever of the two prevails or comes first decides which parent the child will resemble.”
(Sahih Muslim)
If the woman drinks the semen of the man and the man in case swallows the wife's fluid it won’t be haram to do so because it’s pure. The exception here would be the gushing water like liquid that sprouts out of a women's vagina due to extreme sexual excitement. This fluid is urine hence its haram to swallow this particular liquid. The strongest evidence for the permissibility of engaging in oral sex is that Islam is silent on this topic. The prophet (sal) said:
“Verily Allah has obligated the obligations – so do not neglect them. And He has limited the limits – so do not transgress them. And His silence about things is from His mercy, not forgetfulness, so do not investigate them.”
(Darqutni and Baihaqi- hasan sahih)
Even modern scientific evidence has found that drinking semen is good for your health. The seminal fluid is rich in protein, fructose, vitamin C, and calcium. Research done by the National Health Service and published (Naghma-E-Rehan, Aquiles J. Sobrero, and John W. Fertig. “The Semen of Fertile Men: Statistical Analysis of 1300 Men”. Obstetrical & Gynecological Survey 31.1 (1976): 52-55. Web. 6 Feb. 2015) claimed that semen may act as an antidepressant when absorbed within the vagina or the mouth and the same study found that exposure to semen is linked to better health in general for individuals. This clearly proves that Islam won’t forbid something that is good for your health. One ting must be noted is that drinking any of the sexual juices must not be forced and it only should be done on mutual consent and understanding. If not a condom which is flavored or not can be used.
The companions were very much aware of oral sex and so was the prophet (sal) but the prophet (sal) never forbade it. You can watch my latest video about oral sex in Islam by clicking below.
Point of Argument Number-2-The Prophet (sal) told to bite the male member (Penis)
The allowance of oral sex is proven with one hadith of the prophet (sal) telling to go bite the male member if someone is boasting about his lineage. This should be understood that biting the male member or in other words, to bite the penis is showing how distasteful the boasting of lineage is. The hadith is as follows:
It was narrated from Ubayy ibn Ka‘b that a man boasted in an ignorant manner of his tribal lineage, so he told him to bite his father’s male member, and he did not use a metaphor. The people looked askance at him, so he said to the people: I can see what you are thinking, and I can only say this: that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) instructed us: “If you hear someone boasting in an ignorant manner of his tribal lineage, then tell him to bite his father’s male member, and do not use a metaphor.”
(Narrated in Musnad Ahmed-classed as hasan by the commentators on al Musnad).
From the above hadith we know that the prophet (sal) was very much aware of anything that had to do with oral sex but he never forbade it.
Point of Argument Number-3-Sexual Fluids Are Halal-Sucking the clitoris of Al-Lat.
Another hadith proves that the prophet (sal) and his companions knew very well about oral sex and even so, it was not forbidden. Here is another hadith,
Narrated by Narrated Al-Miswar bin Makhrama and Marwan:
‘Urwah ibn Mas‘ood, who came as a negotiator on behalf of the mushrikeen at al-Hudaybiyah, said to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): By Allah I see faces, and I see a mixture of people who are most likely going to flee and desert you. Abu Bakr said to him: Suck the clitoris of al-Laat! Would we flee and desert him? He said: Who is that? They said: Abu Bakr.
(Sahih Al Bukhari)
It is clear from the above hadith that Abu-Bakr (rali) insulted the mushrik idol of Lat by saying to Urwah ibn Mas‘ood to suck the clitoris of Al Lat. That is to engage in oral sex with this idol which was worshipped as the daughter of Allah (Indeed Allah is free from all this). Abu Bakr (rali) said this in front of the prophetc (sal) and from this hadith it is clear that oral sex was a known thing and it was not forbidden. Imam Qurtubi said in the tafseer of surah an Noor he said on the thirty first ayah:
“Asbagh, from our ’Ulama, said it is permissible for the man to lick it [i.e.
the vagina] with his tongue.”
(Imam al-Qurtubi, al-Jami’ li-Ahkām il-Qur’ān (Beirut: Dār Ihya Turāth al-’Arabī, 1405 AH/1985 CE), vol.12, p.232).
From the above evidences it is clear that oral sex is not haram in Islam.
Point of Argument Number-4-Hadith Mentioning Sex during Ramazan.
There are authentic hadiths that prove that you can have any form of sex except for having intercourse through penile penetration. The prophet (sal) used to do Mubaasharah (having sexual relations) when he was
Fasting, and would place a cloth between him and her, meaning over the private part.”
(Ahmad and Ibn Khuzaymah in his Sahih.)
And in another hadith the prophet (sal),
"Used to kiss when fasting, touch when fasting, and was the most in control of his desires”
(Bukhari and Muslim)
The above two hadiths were explained by Aisha (rali) when she was asked;
"What is Halaal (permissible) for a man to do with his wife when he is fasting? “She said, “Everything except intercourse.”
Abdir-Razzaaq in his Musannaf with a Sahih isnad is clear that the prophet (sal) used to have sex during Ramazan and the cloth he place was to be a barrier from intercourse not oral sex. From these hadiths it is clear that you can have oral sex during Ramazan without drinking the sexual juices because these juices if drunk can break the fast. Having any kind of ex means oral sex too and you can simply use a condom if you fear that you can drink the sexual juices.
Point of Argument Number-5-Anal licking and sucking
There is no evidence to prove that anal licking or sucking is haram. When it comes to the anus, having penile penetrative intercourse is haram according to some scholars.
Ibn ‘Abbas (rali) said: The Messenger of Allah (sal) said: “Allah will not look at a man who has intercourse with a woman in her back passage.”
(Tirmidhi-graded Sahih by Albani and Ibn Daqeeq)
Alough scholars like Albani graded is authentic, a large number of sholars have declard the above hadith as weak. Imam Tirmidhi graded graded the above hadith as authentic but it should be noted that one of the narrators by the name of Sulaiman ibn Hayyaan, who too goes by the name of Abu Khalid al-Ahmar is weak. Imam ibn Hajar in his
book "Tehzeeb al-Tehzeeb", said the following,
"Ibn `Adiy has said that he has reported a number of good hadith and because
of his poor memory he has also committed a lot of mistakes and errors. He
is actually, as Ibn Mu`een has said, a truthful person but he is not an evidence". There is another narrator in this hadith known as al Dhahhaak ibn abd Allah ibn Khalid was too a weak narrator. Imam ibn Hajar al Asqalani raheemaullah in his book, "Tehzeeb al-Tehzeeb" said the following about Al Dhahak ibn Uthman,
"Ibn Abd al-Burr has said that he was prone to mistakes, he does not
evidence".
Ibn Hajar also continued saying the following about this narrator,
"And Abu Zur`ah has said that he is not a reliable narrator. And Abu
Hatim has said that... his reports do not evidence"
If anal licking was haram then it would have been clearly been forbidden. The argument that such a practice is disgusting is only the opinion of some scholars because anal licking can also be done by using dental or anal dams as well. Anal licking is not haram and proper hygiene anal licking can be enjoyed.
Kissing your wife’s private pats is a form of oral sex or sexual fondling and it is not haram to do so. There are varying opinions among scholars on whether or not oral sex is halal or not and most of the opinions forbidding oral sex are personal opinions based on biased cultural upbringing. The four madhhabs too are divided on this issue. According to the two main sources of Islam namely the Quran and the authentic hadiths there is no clear mention of oral sex being forbidden and this silence is a clear indication that Islam does not forbid oral sex.
The brainwashing is so severe, stories have emerged anecdotally that some spouses have refused to have oral sex with their partner citing conservative opinions and that in turn has resulted in serious marital problems. If you ask randomly, "is blowjob allowed in Islam" many would say that it is not allowed. Just take the instance of one Islamic magazine known as the Majlis (Majlis ul Ulama-South Africa) magazine which is run by deviant Muslims who have Ashari, Muhtazili, Sufi and many other leanings had to say when asked on What is the Sharia ruling on oral sex and the short answer was,
"It is an inhuman, sub-bestial practice which is not permissible"
(Dated October 30th, 2014)
This lunacy is not only limited to a few Muslims but this view is widespread and the most ludicrous thing here is, that like masturbation, oral sex is widely performed among Muslims. In this article, I would like to answer almost all the wrong arguments that are prevalent among Muslims with regards to kissing the privates and performing oral sex.
Point of Argument Number-1-Sexual Fluids Are Halal
One of the main arguments found to despise masturbation is that the seminal fluid and the vaginal fluids are najash(Impure) hence oral sex is haram. This argument has no basis and it’s only the personal opinion of these scholars. The truth is that sexual fluids such as semen is pure. In a hadith
"Aa’ishah (rali) who said: I remember scratching it (semen) from the garment of the Messenger of Allah (sal) thoroughly, and then he prayed in it".
(Sahih Muslim)
“The Messenger of Allaah (sal) used to remove maniy from his garment with a twig of Adhkaar (a kind of tree), then pray in that garment, and he would rub it from his garment once it was dry, and would pray in the same garment.”
(Ibn Khuzaymah in his sahih and classed hasan by Albani in Irwa al ghaleel)
These hadiths prove that semen is not impure and the same could be said about the female fluid known as the urethral fluid because the Prophet (sal) said:
Umm Sulaym (rali), who asked the Prophet (sal) about a woman who sees a dream like a man, sees (i.e., an erotic dream). The Messenger of Allaah (sal) said:
“If a woman sees that, she should do ghusl.” Umm Sulaym said: I felt shy when I heard that. She asked, “Is that possible?” The Prophet (sal) said: “How else would the child resemble his father or mother? The water of the man is thick and white, and the water of the woman is thin and yellow. Whichever of the two prevails or comes first decides which parent the child will resemble.”
(Sahih Muslim)
If the woman drinks the semen of the man and the man in case swallows the wife's fluid it won’t be haram to do so because it’s pure. The exception here would be the gushing water like liquid that sprouts out of a women's vagina due to extreme sexual excitement. This fluid is urine hence its haram to swallow this particular liquid. The strongest evidence for the permissibility of engaging in oral sex is that Islam is silent on this topic. The prophet (sal) said:
“Verily Allah has obligated the obligations – so do not neglect them. And He has limited the limits – so do not transgress them. And His silence about things is from His mercy, not forgetfulness, so do not investigate them.”
(Darqutni and Baihaqi- hasan sahih)
Even modern scientific evidence has found that drinking semen is good for your health. The seminal fluid is rich in protein, fructose, vitamin C, and calcium. Research done by the National Health Service and published (Naghma-E-Rehan, Aquiles J. Sobrero, and John W. Fertig. “The Semen of Fertile Men: Statistical Analysis of 1300 Men”. Obstetrical & Gynecological Survey 31.1 (1976): 52-55. Web. 6 Feb. 2015) claimed that semen may act as an antidepressant when absorbed within the vagina or the mouth and the same study found that exposure to semen is linked to better health in general for individuals. This clearly proves that Islam won’t forbid something that is good for your health. One ting must be noted is that drinking any of the sexual juices must not be forced and it only should be done on mutual consent and understanding. If not a condom which is flavored or not can be used.
The companions were very much aware of oral sex and so was the prophet (sal) but the prophet (sal) never forbade it. You can watch my latest video about oral sex in Islam by clicking below.
Point of Argument Number-2-The Prophet (sal) told to bite the male member (Penis)
The allowance of oral sex is proven with one hadith of the prophet (sal) telling to go bite the male member if someone is boasting about his lineage. This should be understood that biting the male member or in other words, to bite the penis is showing how distasteful the boasting of lineage is. The hadith is as follows:
It was narrated from Ubayy ibn Ka‘b that a man boasted in an ignorant manner of his tribal lineage, so he told him to bite his father’s male member, and he did not use a metaphor. The people looked askance at him, so he said to the people: I can see what you are thinking, and I can only say this: that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) instructed us: “If you hear someone boasting in an ignorant manner of his tribal lineage, then tell him to bite his father’s male member, and do not use a metaphor.”
(Narrated in Musnad Ahmed-classed as hasan by the commentators on al Musnad).
From the above hadith we know that the prophet (sal) was very much aware of anything that had to do with oral sex but he never forbade it.
Point of Argument Number-3-Sexual Fluids Are Halal-Sucking the clitoris of Al-Lat.
Another hadith proves that the prophet (sal) and his companions knew very well about oral sex and even so, it was not forbidden. Here is another hadith,
Narrated by Narrated Al-Miswar bin Makhrama and Marwan:
‘Urwah ibn Mas‘ood, who came as a negotiator on behalf of the mushrikeen at al-Hudaybiyah, said to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): By Allah I see faces, and I see a mixture of people who are most likely going to flee and desert you. Abu Bakr said to him: Suck the clitoris of al-Laat! Would we flee and desert him? He said: Who is that? They said: Abu Bakr.
(Sahih Al Bukhari)
It is clear from the above hadith that Abu-Bakr (rali) insulted the mushrik idol of Lat by saying to Urwah ibn Mas‘ood to suck the clitoris of Al Lat. That is to engage in oral sex with this idol which was worshipped as the daughter of Allah (Indeed Allah is free from all this). Abu Bakr (rali) said this in front of the prophetc (sal) and from this hadith it is clear that oral sex was a known thing and it was not forbidden. Imam Qurtubi said in the tafseer of surah an Noor he said on the thirty first ayah:
“Asbagh, from our ’Ulama, said it is permissible for the man to lick it [i.e.
the vagina] with his tongue.”
(Imam al-Qurtubi, al-Jami’ li-Ahkām il-Qur’ān (Beirut: Dār Ihya Turāth al-’Arabī, 1405 AH/1985 CE), vol.12, p.232).
From the above evidences it is clear that oral sex is not haram in Islam.
Point of Argument Number-4-Hadith Mentioning Sex during Ramazan.
There are authentic hadiths that prove that you can have any form of sex except for having intercourse through penile penetration. The prophet (sal) used to do Mubaasharah (having sexual relations) when he was
Fasting, and would place a cloth between him and her, meaning over the private part.”
(Ahmad and Ibn Khuzaymah in his Sahih.)
And in another hadith the prophet (sal),
"Used to kiss when fasting, touch when fasting, and was the most in control of his desires”
(Bukhari and Muslim)
The above two hadiths were explained by Aisha (rali) when she was asked;
"What is Halaal (permissible) for a man to do with his wife when he is fasting? “She said, “Everything except intercourse.”
Abdir-Razzaaq in his Musannaf with a Sahih isnad is clear that the prophet (sal) used to have sex during Ramazan and the cloth he place was to be a barrier from intercourse not oral sex. From these hadiths it is clear that you can have oral sex during Ramazan without drinking the sexual juices because these juices if drunk can break the fast. Having any kind of ex means oral sex too and you can simply use a condom if you fear that you can drink the sexual juices.
Point of Argument Number-5-Anal licking and sucking
There is no evidence to prove that anal licking or sucking is haram. When it comes to the anus, having penile penetrative intercourse is haram according to some scholars.
Ibn ‘Abbas (rali) said: The Messenger of Allah (sal) said: “Allah will not look at a man who has intercourse with a woman in her back passage.”
(Tirmidhi-graded Sahih by Albani and Ibn Daqeeq)
Alough scholars like Albani graded is authentic, a large number of sholars have declard the above hadith as weak. Imam Tirmidhi graded graded the above hadith as authentic but it should be noted that one of the narrators by the name of Sulaiman ibn Hayyaan, who too goes by the name of Abu Khalid al-Ahmar is weak. Imam ibn Hajar in his
book "Tehzeeb al-Tehzeeb", said the following,
"Ibn `Adiy has said that he has reported a number of good hadith and because
of his poor memory he has also committed a lot of mistakes and errors. He
is actually, as Ibn Mu`een has said, a truthful person but he is not an evidence". There is another narrator in this hadith known as al Dhahhaak ibn abd Allah ibn Khalid was too a weak narrator. Imam ibn Hajar al Asqalani raheemaullah in his book, "Tehzeeb al-Tehzeeb" said the following about Al Dhahak ibn Uthman,
"Ibn Abd al-Burr has said that he was prone to mistakes, he does not
evidence".
Ibn Hajar also continued saying the following about this narrator,
"And Abu Zur`ah has said that he is not a reliable narrator. And Abu
Hatim has said that... his reports do not evidence"
If anal licking was haram then it would have been clearly been forbidden. The argument that such a practice is disgusting is only the opinion of some scholars because anal licking can also be done by using dental or anal dams as well. Anal licking is not haram and proper hygiene anal licking can be enjoyed.