Why Kissing is Not Haram for a Muslim While Fasting
C.J Ahmed-14.05.2023
Kissing while fasting will not break your fast and it is not haram for a Muslim to kiss while fasting. Even having sexual relationship while fasting is not haram.
“He (the Prophet (sal) would do Mubaasharah (having sexual relations) when he was fasting, and would place a cloth between him and her, meaning over the private part.”
(Reported by Ahmad and Ibn Khuzaymah in his Saheeh. Its Isnad is Good (Jayyid).
In another hadith,
“He (the Prophet (sal)) used to kiss when fasting, touch when
fasting, and was the most in control of his desires”
(Reported by al-Bukhari, Muslim, and others)
According to Islam, sexual intercourse is the entering of the two private parts. If anything happens other than this, is not a sin that falls under had punishment. There is very clear evidence from authentic hadiths to prove this which I wouldn’t like to go in detail in this particular article.
The above hadiths prove clearly that engaging in anything other than sexual intercourse even if you ejaculate semen or other female secretion would not invalidate the fast and there is no kaffara for this. This view is further strengthened with the below narration of Aisha (rali) in response to someone who asked her:
“What is Halaal (permissible) for a man to do with his wife when he is fasting?”
She said, “Everything except intercourse.”
This was reported by ‘Abdir-Razzaaq in his Musannaf (4 / 190 / 8439) with a Saheeh (authentic)
chain of narrators, as al-Hafidh Ibn Hajr mentioned in al-Fath. This narration was also used as a proof by Ibn Hazm regarding this issue. (From the Silsilah).
‘Aisha herself, reported by at-Tahaawee with a Saheeh Isnad that Hakeem bin ‘Iqaal said:
“I asked ‘Aisha, “What is prohibited for me from my wife while I am fasting?” She said, “Her
private part.”
Some try to interpret the word “Mubaasharaah” as kissing but, this is wrong as the prophet(sal) used to kiss when fasting, touch when fasting, and was the most in control of his desires
Reported by al-Bukhari, Muslim, and others.
The real meaning for "Mubaasharah" is having sexual relations.
So, you can do anything except doing intercourse (entering of the private parts) and it won’t break the fast.
Now the other question is, whether kissing non-mahram is allowed and the answer is yes, it is allowed. Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported:
“A slave girl of Madīnah would take hold of the hand of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and would take him wherever she wished” (Bukhari)
Kissing is a form of touching another person using the lips and this is not haram because Even the prophet (sal) touched the hand of a slave woman as evident from the above hadith. Kissing your girlfriend during Ramadan and will not break your fast whether or not it is haram or not. Kissing a woman with good intentions without lust is not haram because The prophet(Sal) said,
"Actions are according to intentions, and everyone will get what was intended" (Bukhari and Muslim)
Kissing while fasting is not haram.
Kissing while fasting will not break your fast and it is not haram for a Muslim to kiss while fasting. Even having sexual relationship while fasting is not haram.
“He (the Prophet (sal) would do Mubaasharah (having sexual relations) when he was fasting, and would place a cloth between him and her, meaning over the private part.”
(Reported by Ahmad and Ibn Khuzaymah in his Saheeh. Its Isnad is Good (Jayyid).
In another hadith,
“He (the Prophet (sal)) used to kiss when fasting, touch when
fasting, and was the most in control of his desires”
(Reported by al-Bukhari, Muslim, and others)
According to Islam, sexual intercourse is the entering of the two private parts. If anything happens other than this, is not a sin that falls under had punishment. There is very clear evidence from authentic hadiths to prove this which I wouldn’t like to go in detail in this particular article.
The above hadiths prove clearly that engaging in anything other than sexual intercourse even if you ejaculate semen or other female secretion would not invalidate the fast and there is no kaffara for this. This view is further strengthened with the below narration of Aisha (rali) in response to someone who asked her:
“What is Halaal (permissible) for a man to do with his wife when he is fasting?”
She said, “Everything except intercourse.”
This was reported by ‘Abdir-Razzaaq in his Musannaf (4 / 190 / 8439) with a Saheeh (authentic)
chain of narrators, as al-Hafidh Ibn Hajr mentioned in al-Fath. This narration was also used as a proof by Ibn Hazm regarding this issue. (From the Silsilah).
‘Aisha herself, reported by at-Tahaawee with a Saheeh Isnad that Hakeem bin ‘Iqaal said:
“I asked ‘Aisha, “What is prohibited for me from my wife while I am fasting?” She said, “Her
private part.”
Some try to interpret the word “Mubaasharaah” as kissing but, this is wrong as the prophet(sal) used to kiss when fasting, touch when fasting, and was the most in control of his desires
Reported by al-Bukhari, Muslim, and others.
The real meaning for "Mubaasharah" is having sexual relations.
So, you can do anything except doing intercourse (entering of the private parts) and it won’t break the fast.
Now the other question is, whether kissing non-mahram is allowed and the answer is yes, it is allowed. Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported:
“A slave girl of Madīnah would take hold of the hand of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) and would take him wherever she wished” (Bukhari)
Kissing is a form of touching another person using the lips and this is not haram because Even the prophet (sal) touched the hand of a slave woman as evident from the above hadith. Kissing your girlfriend during Ramadan and will not break your fast whether or not it is haram or not. Kissing a woman with good intentions without lust is not haram because The prophet(Sal) said,
"Actions are according to intentions, and everyone will get what was intended" (Bukhari and Muslim)
Kissing while fasting is not haram.